For most of us saying “no” is very difficult. We don’t want to offend or disappoint people. As a result we have to spend too much of our time and energy on doing things which seriously interferes our work. But it requires a great time and energy for us to pursue our goal. In fact not only do we have to devote most of our time but also our heart and soul. Therefore even if a request is legitimate and important sometimes we just have to say “no” in order to prevent too great a toll on our time. And it is possible to decline a request in ways that do not seem rude or unkind. Here are some nice ways to say “no”.

You may pay a compliment as you say “no”. Take a university professor Delores for example when someone calls asking him to serve on their board and he knows that he just can’t do it. He often say “ I’m so glad you thought of me. I am a big fan of your orgnization but my schedule just won’t allow me to accept your invitation.”

You may also decline in a positive way. For example “That’s a good product but it’s not something we can use at this time” is a gentle way to say “no”.

对于大多数人来说说“不”是非常困难的。我们不想冒犯或让人失望。因此我们需要花太多的时间和精力在做事情严重影响我们的工作。但它需要很大的时间和精力为我们追求我们的目标。事实上我们不仅必须花大部分的时间也是我们的心和灵魂。因此即使一个请求是合法的和重要的有时我们必须说“不”以防止太大影响。和可以减少请求的方式似乎并不粗鲁或不友善的。这里有一些不错的方法说“不”。

你可能恭维你说“不”。例如大学教授德洛丽丝当有人打电话问他为他们的董事会他知道他不能这么做。他经常说“我很高兴你对我的看法。我喜欢你的组织但我的时间表不允许我接受你的邀请。”

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你也可以以一种积极的方式去拒绝。例如“这是一个很好的产品但这不是我们在这个时候可以使用“是一个温和的方式说“不”。